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HELLO,
So in regards to a request inquired from me by a friend, I got an article that I think will suffice in respect to your request.
BY BRYAN ROBINSON:
I hope this helps cheers,
Joy Newman.
So in regards to a request inquired from me by a friend, I got an article that I think will suffice in respect to your request.
BY BRYAN ROBINSON:
Few people can blame 13-year-old Ali Abbas for wanting revenge.
In April, Ali lost both his arms, his parents, his brother and several
other relatives to an errant U.S. bomb during combat operations in Iraq.
The image of the wounded and burned boy crying in pain on a hospital
stretcher inspired people around the globe to raise money for his
medical care and further outraged those who opposed the U.S.-led war
against Saddam Hussein's regime.
Last month, after being fitted for prosthetic arms at a London hospital,
Ali said he hoped the people responsible for his disfigurement and the
loss of his family would suffer some of his pain.
"I hope that the pilot who hit our house would be burned as I am burned
and my family were burned," he told Independent Television.
Very few can identify with Ali's tragic story and the circumstances
under which he suffered his loss. But everyone has felt the need to
extract revenge. From being cut off in traffic by a rude driver and
wanting to return the favor, to fantasizing about putting a school bully
in his place, we have all felt wronged by someone — and mulled ways of
gaining vengeance.
But while the need for revenge can be understandable, experts say it is never healthy.
"It's not healthy, but like many other human needs, it's also normal,"
said Harold Takooshian, professor of psychology at Fordham University in
New York.
"Like hate, revenge is something that takes a toll on the person who
feels wronged, as well as the [person's] enemy. It is inherently
unhealthy because it takes a psychological and physical toll on the
person. Venting those feelings of anger and hostility does not decrease
those feelings," he said.
"It may give you a cathartic feeling, but it doesn't last."
The Endless Cycle of Retribution.
Revenge spawns an endless cycle of retribution. It is not a long-term
solution, but a quick-fix. That, experts say, is part of its appeal — it
gives a wronged party some gratification, even though it is only
temporary.
Some people equate revenge with seeking justice, but the two are not the
same. People who seek revenge are driven by anger and violence and have
not thought about how channel their negative feelings into something
positive. They have not considered how they could use their negative
experience — the injustice they suffered — to bring about change.
"It doesn't mean that you don't want to hold people accountable for
their actions or that you don't want to seek justice," said William
Mikulas, professor of psychology at the University of West Florida.
"With revenge, you are coming from an orientation of anger and violence or self-righteousness: 'I want to get him, I want to hurt them … I want to make them pay.' You're coming from a place of violence and anger and that's never good."
"With revenge, you are coming from an orientation of anger and violence or self-righteousness: 'I want to get him, I want to hurt them … I want to make them pay.' You're coming from a place of violence and anger and that's never good."
I hope this helps cheers,
Joy Newman.
